I’ve been trying to work ahead on my blog, writing a few postings at a time, but exercising patience to post them is challenging. I’d rather post a flurry of entries as I feel inspired, then be silent until inspiration hits again. They say that isn’t good for blog-business though, so I’m trying out this patience thing.
As I write, I’ve been thinking about what I want to post and how I want this blog to be. What parts of life should I emphasize? And why does anyone care about me? There’s only one answer I can come up with… People respond because I’m willing to talk about things that many of us face, things that few of us are willing to share publicly, so that’s what I should write about. Why are we so insistent upon privacy?
My favorite author, Madeline L’Engle, writes that we’re obsessed with privacy because we’re afraid. We fear if others truly know us, understand the depths of who we are, they won’t like us. And we really want to be liked, so we hide away what we’re ashamed of, what brings us pain, even what we appreciate (in case someone else doesn’t appreciate it), and we try to put forward an image of ourselves that we think others will find attractive. Then we can’t figure out why we don’t have meaningful, fulfilling relationships with others. We can’t figure out why we’re not happy. We think no one “gets us”. But who have we allowed in? Even the Bible tells stories about its main characters caught in adultery, murder, lying, and more. I’ve decided I would rather be genuinely loved for who I really am than have hundreds of admirers who like who I think I’m supposed to be.
Of course, some things are private and should be. All the world doesn’t need to know every detail of my life and it would be dishonoring to those around me to share everything. So the question becomes, what are appropriate boundaries?
It would be easy to write a fluffy little blog that only shows the good side of my life. I could tell you the highlights, but if you’re anything like me, you’d soon be bored, maybe a little jealous, and move on to read about someone more interesting. As a newlywed, I must consider the feelings of my husband and family as well. I need to find a way to share about struggles without being disrespectful or dishonoring to them.
So I will begin. I can’t promise to get it all right. There may be times I over-share and later regret it, may have to pull back and share less. There may be times I gloss over issues that really could be looked at more deeply. But I’ll plunge ahead, learn as I go, and hopefully you will find it something worth reading. My ultimate goal is to point to Christ, who forgives our many flaws and loves us so much that I want to do all I can to be like Him. Along the way, I appreciate and welcome your feedback.